We’ve all been there: you’ve got somewhere to be but nothing to wear. After 30 minutes of trying on clothes–and almost late for your plans–you give up and throw on a pair of jeans and t-shirt. You don’t feel great about your outfit, you might even regret it as you’re driving to your destination, but now you’re stuck with it
This used to happen to me all. the. time. I can’t even tell you how many times I was late for work because I was struggling to piece together a decent outfit, feeling like nothing fit, and eventually giving up. The moment I got to work though, I instantly felt self-conscious, knowing I didn’t look my best–which, in turn, means I didn’t feel my best.
For many of us, one of the main causes in feeling this way is having too much stuff.
Because every time we find ourselves in this situation, our gut reaction is that we need more clothes. We don’t take the time to assess our wardrobe, or understand why we feel like we have nothing to wear, we just do a bit of retail therapy and band-aid our closet back together. But, how can we stop impulse buying altogether and learn to love our closet now?
Reduce the options
No matter how frustrated you are, resist the urge to throw everything away. Instead, pick out 5-7 of your most-worn pieces. Odds are, the items you choose will be those that best suit your lifestyle. For example, no matter how much you love it, I can almost guarantee you won’t pull out a sequined cocktail dress and one of your 5-7 most worn pieces.
Your wardrobe should reflect your lifestyle–not the lifestyle that you imagine.
Once you’ve chosen your 5-7 most worn pieces, add in other pieces that compliment and work well with those pieces (Check out this Wellesley & King post on building a color palette for help coordinating). The goal is to create a mix-and-matchable set of items but, most importantly, these items should reflect your lifestyle.
From there, remove all other items from your closet. That’s right–get them out. Whether you need to store off-season clothes, or do an all-out closet detox, allow yourself to let go of items that you’re no longer wearing and that no longer fit.
Turn your closet into a boutique
My favorite way to love your closet is by turning it into your own shoppable boutique. That means you’ll want to display your clothes in a way that no items are hidden, tossed on the floor, or shoved in the back of drawers. I personally love to utilize an open closet so that none of my clothes are stuck in the depths of a closet, rather they’re all easily accessible and visible.
This same rule applies to storing your shoes. Investing in this shoe cabinetwas one of the best organization decisions I made; it allows me to see all of the shoes I have at a quick glance, while also protecting them from dust and dirt.
Invest in a tailor
Finding a great tailor, and investing in altering your clothing to fit your body is one of the best ways to make the most of your current wardrobe. Don’t get me wrong, I know that alterations can add up, but you will be amazed at what a difference it makes when your clothes actually fit. Hemming a pair of trousers, taking in the waist, shortening sleeves–all of these tricks will make a world of difference in how you look in your clothes, which will directly impact how you feel in your clothes.
Resist future purchases
Once you get through all of the above, the hard part is making sure you don’t end up right back where you started. The easiest way to do that? Resist purchasing items that you don’t absolutely love. And I mean you-cannot-live-without-them-you-love-them-THAT-much items. Why waste your money on anything that doesn’t make you look and feel your absolute best? Instead, allow yourself to save up for something truly special, a piece that makes you feel like the boss lady you undoubtedly are. In the meantime, challenge yourself to see how many outfits you can create from your pared down wardrobe.
Let’s agree that it’s no fun to look at your wardrobe–knowing just how much money you’ve spent on the pieces inside–and not feel like you absolutely love every piece in it.By taking the time to de-clutter and then ensuring that, for all future purchases, you only accept items that you absolutely cannot live without, you’ll be well on your way to loving your closet.