Clothes are incredibly powerful tools. They can be the difference in a good day and a bad day. They can impact your entire mood, and the way you see yourself. They can give you the confidence to nail a big presentation, or allow you to feel unhappy in your skin. Understanding that you have the power to write your own story through the things that you wear is a life-changing realization, and one that you have complete control over. It’s just a matter of what you do with that knowledge.
When I was a little girl, I obsessed over my Barbies. I loved to experiment with their outfits and spent endless hours dressing them for all of their different occasions. I drew sketches of formal gowns and designed clothes over many a notebook. I understood very early that clothes were special, and that what we wear tells a story of who we are and how we perceive ourselves. There were also times in my life when I threw up my arms, and totally gave up on caring about my looks. For an entire year of high school, I rotated between a few different hooded sweatshirts, wore my hair in a ponytail and did not apply an ounce of makeup. I fell into this same pattern through the first year of my career, until I got fed up with myself and decided to snap out of it, realizing that I was making an affirmative decision not to look my best.
The stigma associated with fashion
Many of us can agree that we’ve thought of women who like fashion as flighty, superficial and irresponsible. For some reason, choosing to care about your appearance, making a conscience decision to express your personality through the things that you wear, comes with a stigma that you’re not smart. For the longest time, and even still at times now, I was so embarrassed to tell people that I had a “fashion blog”. I worried that they wouldn’t understand, or that they would think of me as self-absorbed. In reality though, this blog is an open journal, documenting my personal style journey, and offering to help others along the way. Many of the bloggers and women in my life who also love clothes are some of the smartest and creative women I know. The fact that they are into fashion doesn’t undermine their intelligence or make them shallow, but rather, shows me that they are confident in who they are, and use that creativity to express themselves through fashion.
Your clothes determine the impression you make on others
Like it or not, the clothes that you wear are the first thing people notice about you. If you’re dressed sloppily, haven’t put any effort into fixing your hair, or look tired… that’s sadly how people will remember you. Every day is a potential opportunity to meet someone new, stumble upon a new career, or even meet your future spouse, and the way you choose to present yourself through your clothes can make all the difference in how those opportunities play out.
Putting time into your appearance doesn’t make you superficial
Knowing that literally every day contains the possibility to change your life, and that your clothes can play a major role in that, putting the time into your appearance does not make you superficial or self-absorbed or lacking confidence. It is completely okay to want to look your best for whatever life has in store for you that day.
What you wear is directly related to your mood
We all know that on days when we don’t change out of our yoga pants, brush our hair, or put on some mascara, it impacts our mood. We can feel unattractive, out of shape, or undesirable. On the contrary, think of a time when you felt the most confident or beautiful in your skin. For many women, that might mean your wedding day or a formal occasion, but it was likely a day when you were wearing something special. Your clothes have the power to make you feel confident, strong and beautiful. Why wouldn’t you allow yourself to feel this special every day?
There is power in clothes. If you choose to ignore that, you deny yourself the opportunity to feel amazing every single day. It doesn’t make you selfish; it doesn’t make you self-absorbed. Your clothes tell the world who you are, and a well-dressed woman shows the world that she appreciates herself and her body, and is strong and confident. Every woman deserves that.