The Life-Changing Power of Clothes

Clothes are incredibly powerful tools.  They can be the difference in a good day and a bad day.  They can impact your entire mood, and the way you see yourself.  They can give you the confidence to nail a big presentation, or allow you to feel unhappy in your skin. Understanding that you have the power to write your own story through the things that you wear is a life-changing realization, and one that you have complete control over. It’s just a matter of what you do with that knowledge.

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When I was a little girl, I obsessed over my Barbies.  I loved to experiment with their outfits and spent endless hours dressing them for all of their different occasions. I drew sketches of formal gowns and designed clothes over many a notebook. I understood very early that clothes were special, and that what we wear tells a story of who we are and how we perceive ourselves. There were also times in my life when I threw up my arms, and totally gave up on caring about my looks. For an entire year of high school, I rotated between a few different hooded sweatshirts, wore my hair in a ponytail and did not apply an ounce of makeup. I fell into this same pattern through the first year of my career, until I got fed up with myself and decided to snap out of it, realizing that I was making an affirmative decision not to look my best.

The stigma associated with fashion

Many of us can agree that we’ve thought of women who like fashion as flighty, superficial and irresponsible. For some reason, choosing to care about your appearance, making a conscience decision to express your personality through the things that you wear, comes with a stigma that you’re not smart. For the longest time, and even still at times now, I was so embarrassed to tell people that I had a “fashion blog”.  I worried that they wouldn’t understand, or that they would think of me as self-absorbed.  In reality though, this blog is an open journal, documenting my personal style journey, and offering to help others along the way. Many of the bloggers and women in my life who also love clothes are some of the smartest and creative women I know. The fact that they are into fashion doesn’t undermine their intelligence or make them shallow, but rather, shows me that they are confident in who they are, and use that creativity to express themselves through fashion.

Your clothes determine the impression you make on others

Like it or not, the clothes that you wear are the first thing people notice about you. If you’re dressed sloppily, haven’t put any effort into fixing your hair, or look tired… that’s sadly how people will remember you.  Every day is a potential opportunity to meet someone new, stumble upon a new career, or even meet your future spouse, and the way you choose to present yourself through your clothes can make all the difference in how those opportunities play out.

Putting time into your appearance doesn’t make you superficial

Knowing that literally every day contains the possibility to change your life, and that your clothes can play a major role in that, putting the time into your appearance does not make you superficial or self-absorbed or lacking confidence. It is completely okay to want to look your best for whatever life has in store for you that day.

What you wear is directly related to your mood

We all know that on days when we don’t change out of our yoga pants, brush our hair, or put on some mascara, it impacts our mood. We can feel unattractive, out of shape, or undesirable. On the contrary, think of a time when you felt the most confident or beautiful in your skin. For many women, that might mean your wedding day or a formal occasion, but it was likely a day when you were wearing something special.  Your clothes have the power to make you feel confident, strong and beautiful. Why wouldn’t you allow yourself to feel this special every day?


There is power in clothes. If you choose to ignore that, you deny yourself the opportunity to feel amazing every single day.  It doesn’t make you selfish; it doesn’t make you self-absorbed.  Your clothes tell the world who you are, and a well-dressed woman shows the world that she appreciates herself and her body, and is strong and confident. Every woman deserves that.


Lauren is the creator of the lifestyle blog, Wellesley & King. Like many modern women, she aims to balance her busy career and personal life with style and grace. Wellesley & King is devoted to providing inspiration to modern women everywhere, looking to bring simple and attainable style to all areas of their busy lives. Welcome!


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  1. 1.27.17
    Kimberly said:

    Yay!!! Love this girl – you are killing it with all your posts this year! 🙂

    • 1.31.17
      Lauren said:

      Thank you so much, Kim! Your comment means so much. I’m so passionate about using clothes to your advantage: to brighten your mood, to give you confidence, to make you feel comfortable. I would rather have an entire wardrobe filled with a handful of really great pieces that make me feel awesome, than a wardrobe full of things that make me feel just okay.

  2. 1.27.17
    Niki said:

    I absolutely love this post, Lauren and cannot agree more with absolutely everything you’ve written! “There is power in clothes. If you choose to ignore that, you deny yourself the opportunity to feel amazing every single day. It doesn’t make you selfish; it doesn’t make you self-absorbed. Your clothes tell the world who you are, and a well-dressed woman shows the world that she appreciates herself and her body, and is strong and confident. Every woman deserves that.” – ♥♥♥ xx

    • 1.31.17
      Lauren said:

      This made my day. I’m so thankful that you girls enjoyed and can relate to this post. I think clothing is so incredibly powerful, and everyone (women AND men) deserves to feel great every single day.

  3. 1.28.17
    Erin said:

    I absolutely love this Lauren! And you look amazing!! That skirt is to die for!

    • 1.31.17
      Lauren said:

      Thank you, Erin! I’m so glad you enjoyed it; I really enjoyed writing it myself. I am all for spreading the word that fashion bloggers are brilliant, hard-working, entrepreneurial women!

  4. 6.5.18
    Amanda Y said:

    Totally agree!!

  5. 8.2.18
    Terra said:

    Preach! All of this has been my basic mantra for years. Putting together an outfit is something we all have to do every single day. So it can seem rather simple. But it can actually be an artistic endeavor. And I believe the people who take the time to consider what they’re wearing have a better shot of leaving a positive lasting impression. Not to mention, you can inspire other people to do the same. What’s the down side?

  6. 9.4.18
    Chinenye Olatunde said:

    Wow! U just nailed it. There r days especially on Mondays when I don’t make effort to dress well n It affects my day n mood. There is definitely power in clothes.

  7. 1.4.19
    Monica said:

    Thank you very much for the inspiration and empowerment!
    Your blog comes to me in a time when I’m trying to go back to whom I used to be: self confident, taking care of my self and looking at my best.
    Somehow along the way I lost that passion for feeling great about myself but you are helping me to get it back.
    Thank you very much!! and Happy New Year!

    • 1.5.19

      I’m so glad that you found this post helpful! And welcome to the blog, I’m glad to have you! I think that dressing in a way that makes you feel special is an underrated form of self-care. It can have such a big impact!

  8. 5.8.19
    Ellen Lemoine said:

    I remember my grand aunt telling me this. I never forgot it. In the days when a family only had one car, the wife drove the husband to work. On this one and only one occasion, my aunt wore her bathrobe and a hairnet to drive my grand uncle to work. Lo and behold,you’ll never guess who was there shaking hands with everyone. Being from MA,she was a true democrat. It was John Kennedy shaking hands.She would not get out of the car.
    Today, some people would get out of their car anyways. Not me. I learned a valuable lesson. I never go out of my house unless I feel I look pretty good.